By Okey Ndibe
I
received a plaintive note last week from a young man who seemed rather shocked
that I had not written about Nigeria’s scandal of the moment—the harrowing
story of a 14-year old girl named Ese Rita Oruru, abducted from her home in
Bayelsa State, transported to Kano by a 22-year old drifter, Yunusa (alias
Yellow), who contrived her conversion to Islam and then made her his bride. My
young correspondent then pleaded with me to write about the Ese matter, as if
the burden of rendering whole again a world turned on its head rested with
whatever I was going to say.
*Ese Oruru |
The
matter of Ese, even the fragment of it sketched out above, is a tragic story.
But what makes the story truly, deeply tragic is far less the specific details
of what happened to a solitary young woman than what the Ese Affair says about Nigeria , its
institutions, its attitude to children, and the vexed subject of religion.
In short,
the tragedy lies in the fact that Nigeria is a country at war with
its most vulnerable, weak citizens. It is a country at war with its poor, its
workers, especially those of them who are minimum wage earners, its womenfolk,
especially those of them who are, in every important sense, children.
Speaking
to a reporter, one of Ese’s best friends at school in Bayelsa State
disclosed that her friend’s dream was to become a nurse. According to this
friend, Ese excelled at math, integrated science and English. In her first
interview with reporters, Ese corroborated the account of her dream. In a
child-friendly society, Ese would have received encouragement to enable her to
achieve her professional aspiration. But this is Nigeria , a country that’s turned
into a killer of dreams, if not of the dreamers. Instead of being on her way to
a nursing career, Ese, who is now five months pregnant, must become the charge
of nurses as she, a mere child, prepares to bring a child into the world.
How did
the young man who abducted Ese manage to pull off his crime—for crime it was—in
broad daylight, without anybody, civilian or uniformed, to stop him? How was it
that several adults presided over the farcical conversation of the young woman
without one of them pausing to ask, one, whether she was competent to
voluntarily understand said conversion and, two, whether she understood the
implications of what was to follow?
In her
interview, Ese described the process of her ostensible conversion. “They took
me to one place. Before they took me from the house to Kura, they put me in
hijab, then we went to Kura . When we got
there, they went to one place, and one old man came there and he would say
something and they would say I should repeat. Then I would repeat. If the man
said something again, they would say I should repeat and I would repeat just
like that.”
A conversion indeed, just like that!
Ese Oruru: After her Traumatic Experience |
I am for
the freedom of religious practice. But it’s pathetic when children are
brainwashed, compelled to repeat words they don’t—and can’t—understand, and
then that whole mystifying process is deemed to constitute evidence of
conversion. I’d expect true Muslims to be appalled by this predatory practice
in the name of their faith. There’s no universe of logic where it makes sense
that somebody would convert to something they have absolutely no understanding
of.
Ese’s
odyssey was a tragic drama of abduction, mental exploitation, and sexual
enslavement. She was a victim of a legion of crimes. Here’s a girl whose
expectation was that society would give her the tools to actualize her ambition
to be a nurse. There’s a chance, yet, of there being some sort of twist of fate
in which Ese achieves fame as a nurse. That prospect lies in the womb of the
future. What we know now is that she’s become a household name in Nigeria on
account of a script she did not choose. And this happened because Nigeria
provides a social atmosphere in which the abduction of children is as easy as
their rescue is difficult.
Ese’s
story points up the broader malaise of a society in which the police cannot be
counted on to do the right thing. Had the police moved with alacrity, Ese might
have been rescued sooner from her randy, pedophilic captor. But the Nigerian
police stood pat, emasculated by fear, as a poor captive went through a
harrowing experience.
Ese’s
saddening drama is the more tragic because it is far from exceptional or
unique. Since her story broke, parents of numerous other underage victims have
come forward with their own heartrending stories. In case after case, the
details are eerily similar: some girl lured away from her parents’ home,
“converted” to Islam, and thereafter married off to an adult male who keeps her
away from her parents.
What
happened to Ese and her family is a case of poor-on-poor crime, with the
apparatuses of the state looking on, unconcerned. It reminds me of the horror
visited on defenseless children in some Niger Delta states after an
irresponsible female pastor declared a war on “child witches and wizards.” In
that case, too, no instrument of the government raised a finger to protect the
victims, some of them thrown away in the bushes to die. Instead, one state
government hounded officials of a non-governmental organization that carried
out the humanitarian task of rescuing the savaged children.
If
anybody doubts that Nigeria is a country at war with its future, such a person
need only visit what passes for classrooms in many Nigerian states. Public
officials who send their own children abroad for studies have bequeathed on
other people’s children classrooms that can get near as hot as ovens, much of
the furniture in a shambles, toilets sometimes non-existent. In many
degree-awarding academic institutions, students are condemned to live in
conditions so squalid they don’t befit human habitation.
If you
ask me, I’d say that Ese must be seen as a quick glimpse of a greater, festering
project of dehumanization of Nigerians. For many Nigerian men, the possession
of any form of power is the ability to regard and treat women, including
teenage girls, as play things, mere objects that exist to service all kinds of
male fantasies. Many female undergraduates have stories of some male lecturers
who’d use every means to force them to submit to illicit sexual advances.
Students who spurn such demands are often made to pay a stiff price,
vindictively failed in their exams.
What
happened to Ese should provoke outrage, but it should be a broader outrage, not
merely directed at the experiences of one girl. There are many Eses out there.
They suffer daily, mostly in anonymity and silence, besieged by manipulators
who invoke the name of God or some other ruse to rationalize the evil they do.
Ese is back with her family, but there are many other families whose woe may
never make it to the pages of newspapers, much less the TV screen, whose
daughters are being kept in captivity.
No end is
served by outrage that is fleeting—an all-too brief emotion before we order
that next round of beer and pepper soup. Ese has held up a mirror to our faces,
reminding us of the great work we need to do to save children like her, to save
our future, from perdition. She and victims like her remind us that we must
work towards creating an enlightened society where children are able to nurse
their best dreams into fruition, not captured and criminally bamboozled into
motherhood.
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