Gay Marriage: Where Desmond Tutu Got It Wrong

By Israel A. Ebije
Archbishop Desmond Mpilo Tutu became an internally recognized activist in the 1980's for his strong opposing views against the oppressive era of apartheid in South Africa. Born in Klerksdorp [1], Transvaal [2], South Africa, he was the first black Archbishop of Cape Town.

The 84 years old activist has stood against so many injustices, has helped raise awareness for HIV/AIDS campaign, tuberculosis, poverty, racism xenophobia and many more endemic health and social practices. He is indeed a globally recognized role model in the class of former South African President Nelson Mandela.

*Desmond Tutu

Against the backdrop of his lofty background therefore, it came to many of his admirers as rude shock when the highly respected Anglican Archbishop attended his daughter Mpho Tutu and Marceline van Furth same-sex wedding in the Netherlands. His presence at that wedding indeed endorsed gay orientation, which measurably smears his chains of achievements as an archbishop and activist. Some say he is within his rights to be at the wedding and at the same time endorse the ceremony, others like me totally condemn his implied endorsement.

While I feel laden with burden venting my spleen against his decision to attend the same-sex wedding, it is necessary to confront wrong decisions no matter a person's social, religious profile. No matter the quantum of advocacy for same-sex relationships, it is still frowned at by a good number of humanity who believe it's largely against moral instructions of virtually every religious practice.

I may sound obnoxious, obsolete to persons inclined to same-sex relationships who think it's an attribute of modernity, but regardless of their descent on this matter, it is instructive to harp against the dastardly persuasion which is now encouraging other sexual vices. It is even more sickening for Tutu to raise the stakes considering the strides he has been able to accomplish as a religious and as an opinion leader who advocates on human interest issues that transcends beyond Africa.

The presence of Archbishop Tutu at that wedding may have helped in no small way to either confirm the decision of some youths or to direct them towards taking same sex preference stance. It is therefore instructive to intimate that as a role model, he has taken a position, which indeed will go a long way in fashioning the outlook of so many people on their views towards a pattern of sexual persuasion with all attendant health, psychological and social issues.

Desmond Tutu with daughter, Mpho

I don't want to be bugged down by Desmond Tutu decision to attend an un-Godly union, except to tacitly trace other sexual orientations to the new generation advocacy for homosexuality, pedophilia, incest, teenage sex and many more devious sexually based atrocities fast gaining platoons of advocates globally. Not so many are aware of pro-petitions on afore mention sexual rascality's steaming towards being accepted by law, based on the successful turn of events for same-sex relationships and marriages.

An African-American mother, Mary Carter confessed she was in a relationship with her daughter Vertasha and stated that she knew they were in love when she was sixteen. While she intimated that they had to wait until she was 18 years old before consummating the relationship. She said they have decided to take their relationship to the public “to help others who might be in gay mother/daughter relationship feel confident and okay about coming out. We want the world to know we love each other as mother and daughter and romantically.”

In her insane claim towards legitimizing incest and probably promote subsequent siblings marriage, she admitted that though laws forbid incest mostly because of inbreeding and the birth defects that can often come as a consequence, maintained that incest within same-sex for women should be encouraged because “We're women, so Vertasha and I obviously can't make children,” she insists people like her are new minorities and just want acceptance adding that “they are not hurting anybody”.

While Mary Carter and her daughter Vertasha are working with others in similar relationship for recognition, a Bill that decriminalizes sex between consenting adolescents has been signed into law in South Africa. Changes to the Criminal Law (Sexual Offences and Related Matters) Amendment Bill were adopted by the country's' National Assembly, legalizing children between the ages of 12 and 15 consent to sexual acts with each other.

For pedophiles, rapists, in some countries it is increasingly becoming a norm that punishment for that category of sexual offence be dished with forceful marriage to victims. A 40-year-old restaurant manager Riduan Masmud, in Malaysia who allegedly had sex with a 12 year old girl filed a defense that he has married her. In other climes, the rapist will be forced to marry his victim as punishment. Most times, victims of rape commit suicide when it becomes apparent they cannot wriggle themselves out from marrying their attacker.

There is no consensus among scientists about the exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay, or lesbian orientation, but many opine, a form of imbalance may be responsible. Although much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social, and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that 'permit scientists' to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors.

It is however educative to intimate that in 1975, the American Psychological Association has called on psychologists to take the lead in removing the stigma of mental illness that has long been associated with lesbian, gay, and bisexual orientations. The prejudice and discrimination that people who identify as lesbian, gay, or bisexual regularly experience have been shown to have negative psychological effects. One can therefore imagine the extent the looming sexual orientations are protected.

For Archbishop (emeritus) Desmond Tutu, it is indeed a clear NO on his decision to attend his daughters marriage. He has explicitly added a YES vote to same-sex orientation insanity fast taking over common sense of some deluded citizens of the world. Accepting gay marriage invariably sets the stage for other sexual orientations. As a mentor and a man who has stood for justice, supporting same-sex relationship is not the regular advocacy but utter display of decline of humanity to bestiality – where even the real bests do not copulate with same-sex.

Israel A. Ebije.
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