Nnaemeka Oruh
Over the past century, the position of women in human affairs has
received lots of attention. There has been delineation into several camps and
several groups, each with different ideologies. No matter which camp one
belongs, it seems that the point of convergence remains the belief that women
are different. I use different here both in its pejorative and, of course,
edifying form.
*Michelle Obama
While some see women as deserving of equal (or semi equal) status
with men, most see the woman as an appendage of man hence she should be
subservient and controlled. Whichever way one panders to, all sides in one way
or the other denigrate women. For, what more is denigrating than when women ask
for special treatments through hand-outs? I will not delve into this issue here
as I have already given it special attention in another essay.
My focus in this work is to probe and indeed ask questions as it
concerns an age-old belief. This belief is that women are the weaker gender.
When a belief like this becomes solidified, it runs the risk of becoming
stereotypical and stereotypes are often not questioned. They are swallowed
hook, line and sinker and passed on from generation to generation. But I seek
to deconstruct this stereotype of women as the weaker gender by offering a few
insights.
*Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf
First, I believe that the idea of women as the weaker gender stemmed
from the physiology of women. The woman's physiology mostly in contrast to the
man's sturdier one means that from the physical point of view, the woman is
supposed to be physically stronger. I used 'supposed' because there have been
instances of women who are far stronger (physically) than men. An apprehension
of the fact that this conception of the woman as weaker using physiology
possibly rang true in an era when physicality was very essential in handling
the affairs of man is necessary if one is to understand that this notion is
dated and thus due for serious review. This is especially so considering that in
the present world, physical strength amounts to so little when handling human
affairs.
While one can argue the physical angle and try to point out its
staleness (and therefore irrelevance in determining who is weaker or stronger),
the most important thing is to really ask; how is the woman weaker? Indeed, I
have wearied myself trying to find an answer to that. For indeed, women wield
so much power which show how strong they are.
Mother And Child In Eastern DR Congo
(pix: DownMemoryLane)
Helen of Troy is a typical example. It was she who caused the ten
year Trojan war. She did not have to have the strong arms of Achilles, or the
bravery of Hector. Her power was in her, and with it, she became the apple of
discord that led to the death of many men. Or have we forgotten Delilah and
what she brought on the mighty Samson? What about Abigail, who with her wisdom
wielded enough power to stop King David from destroying her people? Have we
forgotten Esther and how she saved the Israelites? What about Judge Deborah?
These examples clearly point to the strength of women and the power they wield,
most times over men.
Historical as my examples are, one cannot deny that even in our
present day society, there are numerous examples of women who have shown more
than enough strength to influence major actions in the affairs of men. In fact,
as much strength as the strongest of men and, of course, more strength than
average men. There have been, and still are, women who behind the scenes wield
enormous control over the men who rule over us. All around me, I see no proof
of the woman's weakness. I see no weakness in a woman conceiving and carrying a
baby (sometimes babies) for 36-41 weeks and then going through the pains of
labour. I see no weakness in a woman spending sleepless nights tending to her
young ones while also catering for the needs of her husband, his family and the
society at large. I see no weakness in those strong women who sometimes are
their families’ breadwinners. No weakness in those women whom, in all facets of
life can stand toe to toe with men and beat them squarely on a level playing
field. So before we stereotypically apportion the weaker sex tag to women, we
need to re-evaluate.
Angela Merkel, German Chancellor
(Pix: TheGuardian)
A few days ago, while I was thinking about this essay, a friend of
mine coincidentally raised a question that he heard from somewhere. It was a
reference to the Biblical request made by God the father to the Godhead. God
the father did say; 'let us make him a helper'. The New International
Version of the Bible renders it thus:
The
Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make A HELPER suitable for him.” (Gen. 2:18.
Capitalization mine)
So the question, according to my friend is; 'between the helper
and the helped, who is stronger?'
Women are probably not 'stronger' than men, but I also firmly
believe that men are not stronger than women. In any case, it is not a black or
white thing. There are some gray areas to this notion. What I do however
advocate for is the continuous complementary relationship between both sexes.
The belief of women being the weaker gender remains to me, a completely
unsubstantiated one and thus should be discarded as it lacks validation.
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Mr. Oruh sent in this piece from Port Harcourt
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