Osinachi's Death — What A Wife Should Do If Her Husband Is A Wife Beater!

 By Pastor Chris Ojigbani

Recently, a Sister Osinachi Nwachukwu died. She was one of the most profound gospel singers in the world today. The lady that sang Ekwueme. People cry when she sings. Her voice makes people cry. When you listen to her, you go to the throne of God. You go to the throne of heaven immediately.

*Osinachi

She sings naturally. She died because of alleged domestic violence. It was alleged that her husband beat her to death. It's so painful because she's one of the gospel singers whose voice I love. I love her voice so much.

If you listen to her, you will know that she truly worships the Lord. She worships God from her heart. She instantly takes you to the throne of heaven without wasting time. But look at the manner she died— after severe beating from her husband. The person that is supposed to love her more than any other person in the world.

Now, let me use this opportunity to talk to men. You don't have any right or   authority to beat your wife! In fact, you don't have the right to beat anybody. Nobody has the right to beat another human being.

You didn't create the person. Indeed, it is a crime to beat another person. Even if someone is a criminal, you don't have the right to beat him or her.

Now if beating a criminal amounts to taking the laws into your hands, why then should you assume the right to beat your loved ones, especially, your wife? It is a bad thing! That you're the head of the family does not give you the right to beat your wife. You don't have that right. Yes, you don't have that right.

In fact, any man that beats his wife has failed in his leadership position in the home because, as a leader, you are supposed to influence your followers by your special qualities. You don't impose your leadership on your wife. You influence her by showing her love, being nice to her.

*Osinachi and her husband, Peter

You don't force her to do what you want. She is a human being. She has willpower. She has rights the way you have. You didn't buy her! She is not your slave.

If you are listening to me, and you beat your wife, you are a failure! You have to stop. It is bad. Our female folk must be protected. Unfortunately, we have taken away the Scriptures that protect them.

We don't talk about the scriptures anymore; we don't teach people. We don't have respect for women. We're looking for women who will respect us. Why should a man raise his hand on his wife? That he is supposed to cherish, nourish, and love?

There is nothing she would do to you that would justify beating her. If your wife does something bad to you and you're not able to resolve it, then report it to a third party. Instead of beating her, involve a third party to help you resolve the conflict.

If you cannot lead your wife to make her respect you, if your leadership ability is so poor that your wife cannot respect you, then involve a third party to help you.

But don't beat her. And if you wound or even kill her, directly or indirectly, you will face the severe wrath of the law. You can't go unpunished.

It is bad! Look at this lady, Osinachi! A wonderful gospel singer! We just lost her! Who knows whether, before the end of this year, she would have released one powerful song to bless our souls? We've just lost her because of domestic violence.

If you're a woman listening to me and your husband beats you, you need to speak out before you die. Speak out before you die. Speak out. If you speak out, you won't die from the beating.

I don't support divorce, but if your husband beats you, I think it is better to leave the marriage for a while. Separate for a while until the issue is resolved, until he understands that he is not supposed to beat you.

He doesn't have the right to beat you. Involve a third party; report him to the police. Please don't feel it is wrong to report your husband to the police.

Why should your husband beat you? I know that you may feel that it is not good for a woman to report her husband to the police

Is it good for a man to beat his wife? Is it good? Which one is worse? Beating you to kill you or reporting him to the police, and they will stop him from beating you?

You can also go to a qualified marriage counsellor and let the counsellor know what has been happening in your marriage. Don't die in silence.

Don't die in silence. Don't. If Jesus Christ himself said that if you have a conflict, you should try to resolve it. And if you are not able to resolve it, you should involve a third party; why do people teach you to stop involving third parties, and you agree? Involve only more experienced and trusted third parties, not the kind of a third party that will worsen your situation. There are some third parties that don't have any knowledge about marriage or relationships. There's no need to involve such people.

You may have some friends you love and respect, but if they are not qualified to help you, don’t involve them. They can only give you the wrong counsel. So please, if you are a man listening to me, never raise your hand on your wife again. And if you're a woman and you beat your husband, never do that again.

It is bad! It is bad! Always involve a third party. The third party will know how to resolve your conflict. And if it cannot be resolved, maybe both of you should be separated for a while until you know how to resolve the conflict before coming together again to avoid something bad happening.

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