Professor Blassey Ford is not Hauwa Liman an African woman
the last time we checked but she carried all the stigma of Boko Haram girls
that were sexually abused or killed. She predicted the pain and psychological
trauma she would go through if she ever came forward. Nevertheless, she never
predicted the threat to her life! Even worse is the fact that nothing would
happen or change because her harasser would be believed over her.
In terms of equality between men and women,
we might as well look towards Western Europe and Canada since Africans cannot count
on the story and safety of American women. However, African women are pulling
their weight everywhere. Many of them are just as highly educated as men but
the opportunity to move to the highest level still comes through politics. This
is the place where most women are missing in Africa .
It is unfortunate that in 2018, such a highly respectable woman as Prof. Ford could not even dent or scratch her harasser’s credibility one bit, where it matters. The fact that she did not disclose her experience to her boyfriend until after they got married raises fear the Boko Haram girls dreaded the most. Rejection or humiliation by suitors and their communities.
It is unfortunate that in 2018, such a highly respectable woman as Prof. Ford could not even dent or scratch her harasser’s credibility one bit, where it matters. The fact that she did not disclose her experience to her boyfriend until after they got married raises fear the Boko Haram girls dreaded the most. Rejection or humiliation by suitors and their communities.
So white men, out of privilege positions,
high paying jobs or little education, angry, depressed do feel out of
place. Their notion is that women are using sexual harassment as a proxy to get
even. Otherwise, they asserted that there is no reason to bring back a grudge
or innocent act on the part of the boys back 10, 20 or 30 years later when men
are at the tip of their career. It is for no other reason than to pull them
down out of jealousy or viciousness out of privilege.
There is no doubt that many African men are also worried that their women have taken blindly to what they think is hysteria inU.S.A.
After all, almost 80% of white married American women support their privileged
class of men. It is these men in privileged positions that bring home good
incomes; giving their wives the choice to stay home or work. They are even more
concerned about their sons being accused of abuse than they are about their
daughters.
There is no doubt that many African men are also worried that their women have taken blindly to what they think is hysteria in
We must not fail to point out to our young
boys and girls that boisterous habits can damage their career into the future.
After all, not all boys join the ruffian clubs, drunks or misbehave as bangers.
These are specialized sets that other boys stay away from either because they
have been warned at home or they consider it crude and unruly to be associated
with those guys.
So many people including women are confused
right now, whether this is hysteria among highly liberated women or privileged
abuses that have been taken for granted for a long time. Yet, neither men nor
women deny the fact that women were abused. What is baffling though is the split
among American women. It is so bad, Hillary Clinton could not even get majority
of white women to vote for her as Obama got blacks. White women see her as a
threat to the husbands.
Therefore, it is in the interest of married
white women to favor the men who made their lives comfortable, reliable and
secure. Anyone in their shoes would do the same. On the other hand, 80 percent
of black women in America
are the head of their households, whether they are single or married. Black men
have become endangered species outside Africa
since the day of slavery in one form or another. Therefore, it is easier to
throw black men out of homes for any reason or no reason at all. Most
African/black homes would then crumble without them.
It is usually said that facts are very
stubborn but a lie that people are willing to believe is over-shadows the
truth. Nothing changes the fact that women suffer more abuse in the hands of
men, we are only saying it takes much more to believe a black man than to
believe a white man. Benefit of the doubt is not created for the convenience of
Africans outside Africa . So, no matter how
much women cry out, a privileged white man would be more believable.
Mind you, these guys are bailed out each
time they get into trouble by their parents. So, it is not that they do not
know the type of spoiled brats they raised at home. By the time they start
finding excuses for their behavior, it might be too late. Indeed, poor kids
from underdeveloped environment would never get away with what rich white kids
get away with. If they are poor or black, they call law and order officers on
them but if they are rich, they call for rehab or second chance! Give them a
break, these are nice white kids.
Indeed, there are young school boys that
find the unruly behavior of their classmates like those Professor Ford
experienced, unacceptable. The ones that took the side of the girls that are
being bullied, harassed or called names would get into trouble if he stood up
to the bully and hit him. Boys in schools are trained to keep their hands to
themselves, no matter whom the bullies provoked.
We must impact certain rules on our boys.
Never hit another boy because he harassed a girl you consider pleasant or
because she might be too timid to stand up for herself. Report to the teacher,
otherwise you risk suspension or expulsion. Bullies and sexual harassers in
schools are never trained or kept in check enough, not to display repulsive
behavior in schools. They depend on their privileged parents to get them out of
trouble.
It used to be that the children of the poor
in Africa are the ones that turned out to be
greater or more successful in life. It was in the days when education was a
leveler and open to children regardless of how rich our parents were. The more
it becomes a global world, the more African culture changed especially in the
way we raise our children. The change usually results in some loss of the
benefit of our culture and modest way of life.
Indeed, most of our professionals and many
leaders today came from poor homes. We noticed a change when these money bags
started taking their children out of local schools and sending them to private
schools or out of the country altogether. Since they had no more stake in
local schools, they let them degenerate to squalor and militia recruits. What
we got from graduates of those schools are the rut we find ourselves in
today. The ones that would harass Prof. Ford!
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