tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post2455042825687308973..comments2023-12-14T14:35:14.537-08:00Comments on MUST READ!: An Epidemic: Nigerian Men Killing Their Nurse Wives In The United States EDITORhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04813476568301834233noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-10957222624546033592020-12-27T12:53:55.251-08:002020-12-27T12:53:55.251-08:00Read your piece. I want to thank you for the menti...Read your piece. I want to thank you for the mention of the Indian wife and husband as a prototype of an ideal(not perfect though) marriage partner. I mentioned that too in my message. Nigerian couples need to change the stereotype. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-77720506589332036702020-12-27T12:39:09.889-08:002020-12-27T12:39:09.889-08:00Hello Mr Ladipo,
Compliments of the season to you....Hello Mr Ladipo,<br />Compliments of the season to you.<br />I read your piece on the subject this morning through a link<br /> https://ugowrite.blogspot.com/2014/11/an-epidemic-nigerian-men-killing-their.html?m=1&fbclid=IwAR3WMijln1kmwU5MvdGrD7ACAAZD-6fHc_b0Dkv2zJVaTRl3lSWPQENFf6o <br />a friend shared on facebook. I find it as informative as it is insightful. <br />I and my wife have been discussing this topical issue recently, especially as it is prevalent among Nigerian couples. It is sad. <br />Let me shock you, while I was reading your article, my wife was on a long phone call from a university friend who is resident in Texas sharing her matrimonial upheavals. Coincidences, right? My wife's female friend is a LAUTECH trained medical doctor who met her US based husband on the internet. She eventually relocated to the US through the help of her husband. As soon as she got to the US, the union headed for the rocks. She called this morning that they separated 2 years ago. Sad��. <br />My wife is a chemical engineer working in a pharma company. She earns more than I do. We have no issues. I am frank with you. I set my wife up for her jobs and interviews. I currently teach in a public school. We relocated to the US same year. <br />I got your analysis and point of view on the subject. I share your submissions.<br />Nigerian couples need to up their tolerance level. The wives and the husbands need not allow the environment(laws and culture) change them to beasts. The Indian couples made better marriages in the US than their Nigerian counterparts. Nigerian wives allow their earnings get into their heads too early. I have an aunt and 3 close friends that live as singles because their marriages failed. My aunt is a RN and my 3 friends are spouses of RNs. It is pathetic. <br />However, failed marriage is not peculiar with Nigerians. It is a global issue. It is inherent in individuals to agree or disagree with fellow men and women. Agreement is comfort, disagreement is growth.<br />I recommend:<br />Parties in a marriage should be ready to tolerate each other. <br />Parties should separate if life threatening issues are suspected. Marriage should not result in the death of parties.<br />Nigerian couples should take time out on vacations to resolve issues bordering on marriage conflicts. One of the parties should be honest enough to recognise when to schedule a private time for each other. <br /><br />Thank you for your time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-49707637279502344972020-10-10T04:34:37.917-07:002020-10-10T04:34:37.917-07:00You just nailed it. KudosYou just nailed it. KudosBlessednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-6495292512919690502020-10-10T04:32:16.250-07:002020-10-10T04:32:16.250-07:00You are Making lots of sense. Frank talk.You are Making lots of sense. Frank talk.Blessednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-73506241282759554322018-06-23T04:13:55.807-07:002018-06-23T04:13:55.807-07:00Your comment deserves an award
Your comment deserves an award<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051130233781546857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-44306554966243544762018-06-23T04:12:22.609-07:002018-06-23T04:12:22.609-07:00Nice comment from you. Thank you
Nice comment from you. Thank you<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051130233781546857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-63094901146228753302017-03-20T09:58:52.608-07:002017-03-20T09:58:52.608-07:00I want to say one thing ,the idea that women makin...I want to say one thing ,the idea that women making more than men makes them irrational is not true .<br />Firstly real men should not make their wives their source of financial deliverance. Either you marry a women because you truly love her or you forget about it . <br />A lot of these men came to the USA without anything .They spent years wasting their lives "posing" suddenly they realize that they need to have built a house back home and have a car there and other conquest. Then you now think bringing a woman to get this dream achieved is sensible. Communication is everything and most of these women are brought into a marriage without any discussions on the man's plan, also the woman has her own plan about going to America. <br />Some of these men in the first place have no business being with women because they are so concentrated on getting her resources from her that the whole story is despicable. Another story not told in this forum is women in the same Texas (I live here ) who humbly handed over all their finances and life and blood to the man and once all was established ,they dumped the now (old lady) and pick a brand new young chick. <br />There has been cases here of men that called their wives work place begging for overtime duty for the wife or men asking for the whole salaries to be handed over or men that live solely on the woman's money and are also not able have the brains to use that money to buy her a gift or take her out to watch a movie. Rather they use that money to buy a car for a girl back in Nigeria . Some men are animals . <br />On the other hand ,African women have no identity and I am speaking from experience. Check out women from Asia and India ,they have their own belief systems and honestly there are certain places you will not find them. You will not see them all over the police station,jail and divorce court . I want to put it to you that their men are not the most romantic of men and can rather come off as brash and uncouth. Even with that Indian or Asian women know their place . Take an Indian woman to any part of the world ,they remain themselves same goes for asian women.<br />I am talking about a demographic of women that make at least twice what Nigerian women make. Take an African woman to another place like London ,suddenly they start acting like they are from London, move them from there to America and in a few months they start acting like they are from America,they have no identity whatsoever ,they are so easily influenced by their surroundings. So in a place that hostility is shown to men be rest assured that of all demographics ,African women will pick up the mannerisms real quick. <br />On the other hand,a lot of African women ,minus their looks came from poverty. In their minds love is expenditure of high currency.For a lot of them the idea of a shared household is out of the place ,they grew up watching Mommy always approach Daddy for money to buy everything right down to that bottle of Kerosene. So why should they share anything with anyone when they are seeing the money that eluded their ancestors finally enter their hands?<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-31990699145137021972014-11-20T07:55:39.962-08:002014-11-20T07:55:39.962-08:00Don't forget your roots because you are in Ame...Don't forget your roots because you are in America. Don't jettison the sold values you saw at home, which kept your own mother and father happily together, and made you to be raised in a happy stable home. He who has ears, let him hear PCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-897202579334079332014-11-20T07:53:15.424-08:002014-11-20T07:53:15.424-08:00Why is it so difficult for a wife to keep her home...Why is it so difficult for a wife to keep her home just because she is earning big money? After losing out and destroying your home and wasting your youth in unrestrained immorality (with the attendant risks), you would end up in later in life as some lonely, unhappy, unwanted woman. That is when the reality of your folly will dawn on you. You would then realize, too late in the day that you had sacrificed the lasting joy of matrimonial happiness you could have preserved (if you were humble enough) on the altar of gross indiscretion and misguidance. I, however, won't advise husbands of erring wives to harm them no matter the provocation, Laws of God and man frowns at that. African Princenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5813579275777872686.post-11628712844484874292014-11-20T07:38:38.036-08:002014-11-20T07:38:38.036-08:001) These men should stop marrying girls, that coul...1) These men should stop marrying girls, that could be their daughters.<br />2)seems the anger comes from a sense of " I brought you here, let you go to school, probably paid your tuition" you cannot, therefore assert your adult person.<br />The solution to this is simple.<br />Marry the ones that are already nurses, so you do not have to regret letting her go to school, or paying her school feels , when she starts being a real woman in marriage.<br />3) There are a lot of men that are nurses in Nigeria and here too. If you are a man, and wants a nurse as a wife, and likely to get envious when she starts making $100, 000 a year, doing 3 jobs, you have an option to become a nurse. <br />Gooogle WWW. USAuniversitiesofferingnursjngprograms.org. <br />Be ready for at least 4 good years or more, to get a Bachelor's in nursing. Or<br />Try the shortcuts. Do LPN program for one or two years, another 2 years for associate degree in Nursing, then 2 or more years for BSc in Nursing.<br />Know it that you need a B or better and an almost an angelic behavior to remain a student nurse.<br />Know it too, that , that snake, your wife, you think you harbor at home is everywhere. No escaping it. They will be your professors, be in charge of your clinicals, head you when you graduate and start making $120,000 a year, doing two jobs, and some that have no time for the ghosts ( their husbands ) they left at home would bribe you to sleep with them. You are done forever with your new degree if you refuse. There is no escaping any devil in your household or at school or work.<br />Or <br />Be the wife and taker in your household, and leave OPK (other people's Kids) alone.<br />And for these women, who think they can get away with castrating men, simply because you can afford to abuse your bodies for pleasure with some instruments or rent a hospital house keeper to sleep with you in the basements, or even your house keeper or building maintenance worker, be ready because that man you have made a ghost can become a mad ghost and send you to the great beyond sooner than you imagined.<br />Dan<br />Dannoreply@blogger.com